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A quick shower/rinse together before, after, or even in between sex acts can wash away any goo that you don’t want sticking around.
When you’re “stuffing” your partner without a condom, did you know that when your penis ejaculates, it creates a vacuum like a turkey baster? Fluid shoots out, and then is sucked back in. To make sure your penis isn’t gobbling up any unwanted gravy, pull out before you cum!
Ok, so you meant to pull out, but it just felt so good to cum inside of him! Whoopsie! Urinating after sex can help flush out that urethra, making it less likely for any of those booty juices to make their way into your plumbing.
Do it like a porn star, minus the camera crew… unless that’s what you’re into. Having sex with the lights on will increase your visual stimulation. Explore your partner’s body! Kiss, rub, and touch him all over. And you can nonchalantly check for bumps, lesions, or sores, keeping you safe from skin to skin STIs.Remember: syphilis is REAL, y’all!
Sex with your clothes on doesn’t have to be just something that married guys do while they’re cruising on their lunch breaks. Having sex with your boxers on creates a barrier for skin that the condom doesn’t cover, reducing your chances of contracting a skin to skin STI.
Who hasn’t heard this line: “I can’t stay hard when I have a condom on.” Now it’s true, that lots of us turn into Mister Softee the minute we start rolling down that latex, but it’s nothing a warm, hungry mouth can’t handle! There are flavors for every taste. And condom cheeking, or putting a condom on your partner using your mouth, turns a safer sex practice into hot foreplay, making sure you get some hard candy!
Having a few drinks to loosen up can be fun, but it may impact your judgment as well. Deciding to use a condom is often in the heat of the moment, having too much to drink could put you at risk of making a quick decision you would not normally. Knowing your limit is important, especially if you are hooking up with a guy. It’s a good idea to have a sober buddy with you if you are drinking.
Did you know that over time, excessive alcohol use weakens the immune system, which can increase the likelihood of HIV transmission if you are exposed?
So now you’re probably sitting there counting all of the people that you’ve drunkenly had unprotected sex with. Luckily, a FWI won’t get you arrested, but it can be risky! For you bottom guys, insert an FC2 in the anus up to 8 hours prior to sex to insure you are ready for play. It can take a bit of getting used to, but after a couple of cocktails you won’t feel a thing. Bottoms up!
For you top guys, Pack that Package! Putting a condom in the tip of your underwear before going out will ensure that you are covered. This way, the minute they’re taken off, you’ll have exactly what you need on hand!
Fucking causes friction, which is why it feels good. However, too much friction can result in a condom breaking, and if you’re not wearing one, can result in tiny microscopic tears on the surface of the penis or the anus. Using Lube reduces the friction, making sex safer. There are just a few things to remember: Oil based lubricants corrode latex, creating holes and breakage. Any Vaseline, baby oil, hand lotions, etc. are NOT safe to use with latex condoms. And to the gourmet gays, same goes for butter, bacon grease, and Crisco. Only water or silicone based lubricants are safe to use with latex. Non-latex condoms are safe with all types of lube – and lots of guys say they transfer the heat better too. For those of you who have trouble achieving orgasm with a condom on, put a couple of drops of lube inside of the condom before you put it on – but not too much!
Dental dams are great for rimming! They provide a barrier between the mouth and the anus, keeping you safe from those skin-skin STIs. They come in a variety of different scents and flavors Just remember, they’re not to use for anal sex, and the flavored ones can cause chafing through too much contact with the penis.. You can use any type of plastic wrap instead.
Condom use is one of the easiest and most efficient ways to prevent HIV infection – when used PROPERLY. Condoms come in a variety of sizes and colors. If you’re using a male condom, make sure your condom fits snugly but comfortably, and that you leave enough room at the tip for your cum. When you cum, your penis starts getting soft immediately. If your dick is going limp, the condom could slip off, so make sure you grab it around the base as soon as you orgasm!
Condoms can be made of a variety of different materials. Latex, polyurethane, polyisoprene, and nitrile all protect you from HIV and other STIs. Non-latex condoms conduct natural body heat better than latex, which makes the sex even hotter! Non-latex condoms can also be used with any type of lube (shout out to the gourmet gays). Lambskin and other “natural” condoms have small holes in them, and do NOT protect you from HIV and other STIs. Condoms with spermicides in them, (e.g. Nonoxynol-9) could irritate the skin on the penis and anus, creating points of entry for infections.
You might be asking yourself, “Can they be used for anal sex too?” Female condoms are much larger than regular condoms, and can be used in a variety of ways. The female condom can be inserted up to 8 hours before sex, so you’re always ready to go! You could take the ring out, or leave it in. Some tops put the FC2 over their penis like a standard condom. The extra room allows the cock to feel free, providing wider area around the anus and penis for extra protection from skin-skin STIs. As an added bonus, use the inner ring as a cock ring!
When working with people who are newly diagnosed with HIV, prevention workers are often asked the same question? Can I still have sex? The answer: OF COURSE YOU CAN!
The HIV-Positive man can enjoy a healthy, fulfilling sex life just like the next guy. Being aware of how to protect your health and the health of your partners is key.
As a man living with HIV, you’ve probably heard a lot about the need to protect your partners from HIV Fact: It is a public health goal to prevent transmission to others. Fact: It is not solely YOUR responsibility to protect the sexual health of others. Fact: YOUR sexual health IS your responsibility. Let’s focus on YOU and YOUR health. Exposure to HIV co-infection, super infection, or other STIs can be more harmful when the immune system is already compromised. In other words: now’s just as good a time to protect yourself as any.
Serosorting means having sex with men of your same HIV status. Besides the fact that you and your sex partner have at least one thing in common, having sex with other poz guys eliminates some of the pressures and responsibilities that sex with HIV-negative men can involve. Talking about your HIV status with possible partners before you hook up takes the guessing out of the equation, and will put you both on an equal playing field.
If you have HIV, you may be thinking “What would I need to protect myself from? I already have HIV.” What you might not know is that there are many strains of HIV, and although you may already be positive you can be re-infected with another strain. Having multiple strains of HIV is called superinfection. Although superinfection doesn’t have a costume and cape, like superman, it has few weaknesses. Superinfection can wreak havoc in a healthy poz guy’s immune system by interfering with the ability of the medications to work, causing the HIV to progress more rapidly to AIDS..
HIV poz or neg , unprotected sex puts you at risk for getting STIs like chlamydia, gonorrhea or syphilis. It is a vicious cycle; having another STI and being a Poz man makes it harder to treat the STI and the HIV.
Taking your HIV meds is important for maintaining your health. When taken regularly as prescribed, they can lower your viral load to undetectable levels and prevent superinfection and HIV/AIDS related illnesses. It also helps to prevent drug resistance – and makes you much less likely to transmit HIV to partners! Skipping doses can cause your HIV to mutate and grow stronger. Now you know why it’s important to take medications as directed, but you might be thinking, “My treatment regimen is complicated and hard to follow!” Talk to your doctor about setting up daily reminders or other adherence tips.
Take your medication at the same time each day
Put a week’s worth of medication in a pill box at the beginning of each week
Use timers, alarm clocks, or pagers
Keep your medication in a place that’s easily accessible
Keep backup supplies of medications at your place of work
Keep a medication diary: Write the names of medications in a daily planner, and check off each dose as taken
Plan ahead for weekends, holidays, and changes in routine
Develop a support network (family, friends, co-workers, support groups, etc.)
Keep an eye on your supply, and contact your doctor before it runs out
Being “Undetectable” means that your viral load is so low that blood tests cannot find any HIV in your blood. Modern HIV medications are responsible for suppressing the virus, keeping you healthy, and reducing the chances of transmission. But being undetectable doesn’t make you invincible. Practicing risk reduction is important in protecting you against other STIs.
Serodiscordant is when one partner in a sexual relationship is HIV positive and the other is HIV negative.
These opposite symbols may work great for batteries, but HIV status is much more complicated. Open communication is essential in understanding each other’s sexual needs and boundaries. Talk with your partner about sex and different risk reduction options to figure out what you’re both comfortable with. Going together to medical appointments, HIV support groups, and knowing other serodiscordant couples can strengthen your connection and help maintain a healthy dialogue about HIV.
There are plenty of safe ways [NF1] for serodiscordant couples to have a hot and healthy sex life. Having an undetectable viral load will decrease the chances of passing HIV to your partner. See how your partner can support you in taking your medication as prescribed. It will decrease the stress level for both of you. Remember that just because your virus is undetectable, doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist. Safer sex practices and risk reduction options can also help your partner stay HIV-negative.
Unlike the “prepping” you might be used to before sex, PrEP is a form of antiretroviral medication designed for HIV negative men. If your partner is taking PrEP, it will reduce his chances of being infected with HIV. Talk to your partner and a physician to figure out whether or not PrEP is an option for you.
It’s no secret that injection drug use and HIV have been linked since the beginning of the epidemic, but it’s not just the needles that put people at risk! The intoxicating effects of alcohol and other drugs can lower your inhibitions and affect your judgment, putting yourself and others at risk..
If you Slam (inject) drugs, there are ways to reduce the risk of HIV transmission. Not sharing needles with others is the best way to stay safe.
Needle Exchange Programs are an easy and affordable way to get new needles and dispose of old ones.
List of local needle exchange providers:
Project Safe Point 518-449-3581
Town Total Pharmacy 350 Northern Blvd, Albany
Lincoln Pharmacy 300 Morton Ave, Albany
Metcare Rx (Hometown Health) 1049 state Street, Schenectady
Rite Aid Pharmacy Schenectady
For more information on needle exchange programs, visit the links below:
Project Safe Point: http://www.projectsafepoint.org/our-services/syringe-exchange
New York State Expanded Syringe Access Program (NYS ESAP) http://www.health.ny.gov/diseases/aids/harm_reduction/needles_syringes/esap/provdirect.htm
If you share needles, it’s important to clean them properly in between uses. To clean your needle, fill the syringe with clean water. Shake the syringe and shoot out the contents. Repeat this process (with clean water each time) until the water runs clear. Fill the syringe with diluted bleach. Let the bleach stay in the syringe for a minimum of three minutes. The longer you keep the bleach in the syringe, the better! Shoot out the bleach. Repeat this process at least three times (using new bleach each time). Rinse the syringe with clean, fresh water. Shoot out the water. Repeat three times for best results. Remember, bleach does not kill Hepatitis and should only be used as a last resort. The best and safest method is to use a new syringe for every hit.
Substance use can affect a person's overall health, increasing susceptibility to other strains of HIV or STIs and the progression to AIDS. It may be fun to hang out with Mary, Molly, Tina, Jack, Jim, Jose and the rest of the gang, but these “friends” can be a significant cause of illness. Dehydration, mental and physical exhaustion, sleeplessness and lack of food can have a long term impact on a persons’ health, leaving you even more vulnerable to infections and diseases. If you think you may need help with addiction, there are treatment facilities and support groups that can help. Brattleboro Retreat
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